Aug 18, 2013

Homeschooling, Addicitons and Being Intentional - A True Story-

It's been a roller-coaster couple of weeks people, let me tell you!  In some cases I have spent days, where literally hour by hour my thoughts and emotions would take one eighty degree turns!  What brought about such debates and flip flopping you ask- homeschooling, that's what!

August is speeding through and for many kids, they return to school (or begin for the first time) next month.  Blog land is already a flutter with many homsechoolers talking about how lessons are already under way, or which curriculum they are choosing or how they are gearing up, as with the rest of our culture, to start in a few short weeks.

Here at our home we have been...'unschooling' for a couple of years now.  It's basically a "take each teachable moment" approach and has worked well in many ways.  But I know it is not something that can work long term, not for us anyways.

So my dear hubby and I spent many, many hours, talking, debating, praying, searching, thinking about what we were going to choose for this fall.

Hubby and I had to take a long hard look at our reasons for home education.  We wanted to know why we wanted to do it and what it meant for our family.  I had been feeling like I was sinking for some time now, loosing myself in the fast paced world around me and still reeling from my year surreal!

Was homeschooling just one more thing on my already overflowing plate?

That, dear friends is when my computer crashed and my internet issues arose.  And in that 24 hour period my answer came. that isn't entirely true - but in that 24 hour period my answer that I had been seeking was laid plain and clear for me.  I had been praying, seeking, sought out wise council, weighed the options, and looked at the issue from every possible angle

In those 24 hours of no technology I learned something remarkable and terrible.  I learned that I was sinking because I was lost to my addiction of technology.  God laid it out before...or more so, smacked me right in the face with it.  I was sicken by the truth...His truth....I had a real heart issue and the internet was at the center of it all.

I'm being real here, hoping to help others, that they too could see that it's easy to get lost, trapped and taken control of with areas of sin in our lives.  I don't know if anyone reading this has the same issue, or is struggling in any particular addiction type trap but this is my story and I'm laying it out, honest and real for all of you.

That first day, when my computer was gone to get fixed and I could not go online with my iPod/Phone thingy, well that day was a real eye opener!  I'm telling you, every fifteen minutes or so I could literally feel my body turning towards where my computer usually sat - wanting to just sit, "for a minute" to see what was going on in the world.  To check in on friends and family, to read through some blogs and meander through some of the net to...just see.  Every.fifteen.minutes, it had to be, I kept making the move to go and then I would stop.  Stop in my tracks.  There was no where "to go".  There was no computer, no internet - there was only myself, my children and my home...

...And friends can you imagine what I accomplished in that 24 hour period? 

Well...the point isn't so much what I did or what I didn't do but that I was intentional with the time given to me.  No, I wasn't completely productive with every minute of the day - but I was a heck of a lot more productive then I have been in a long time!

And it's funny - I was looking for the link for my year surreal there and ended up re-reading that post and I realized that this lesson I'm learning right now - lines up so perfectly with all that I intended to take away from last year.

The loss of my computer/internet has forced me to be more intentional with my time, to make better use of it and to appreciate it more.  How easy it was to 'kill a few minutes' on the net, be it useful or not!  That phrase alone makes me cringe - "kill a few minutes" - like any of us has time to spare in that manner?!?

So what does all this have to do with homeschooling you ask?  Let me bring it full circle here.  Before I lost the internet and my computer I felt like I was drowning.  That there was too much on my shoulders and too much for me to handle.  I felt like I was permanently treading water and never getting anywhere.  I thought that choosing to homeschool this year might be the end of what little sanity I had left!

I thought that I needed a break and the only way to get it was to send the kids off and try to regroup.  But over the past week or so, leading up to my techno-fail day, I began to see that maybe that wasn't the case - that yes, some things need to change but was sending the kids to school going to give me the break I needed?

When that techno-fail day came, so did my revelation.  I was drowning alright but I was drowning in my lack of time and the lack of being intentional with the time given.  I realized that I was basically addicted to the computer and the internet and that, in there, was the break I needed!  The break He wanted for me!

So dear friends - some things have been put in place and some changes are being made.  I am going to take the word intentional as my word for this year (yes, these words seem to come late in the year for me - but come they do and perfect they are when they come!)  I plan to make better use of my time, set aside time for all the various things I love to do and remove myself from the pull and lure of the net.  Oh, I'm not giving up on it - I love, LOVE to blog but it will have it's place.  I do enjoy social media, it helps me stay connected with people I care about and it's really my only source of news - ha! - sad, but true! Just not every fifteen minutes.  Oh and I'll still have my Pinterest nights - I really love the wealth of ideas there! But again - in it's place.  I will not be online during the day or at all on some days and that's good, that's okay!  I plan to have time for my other, long forgotten hobbies and for learning new ones too!  Time...I plan on being intentional with as much of it as I can!


For some of you, you may not see the big deal here, for many people they don't have a problem in this way - but I do and I see it now!

So I made the choice, when I realized that the issue was not that I needed a break from my kids - it was quite the opposite.  My kids were exactly what I needed and homeschooling was going to be the only way to gain more time with them.

They are just little for such a short time and I realize that more and more.  They are growing crazy fast and the days fly by much quicker then I care to realize!  Yes, some days drag out and some days my kids drive my quite crazy....many days lately! ;)  But oh, those moments, those fleeting, special, gone in an instant moments, those are what make life worth living.


Time is precious and with our choice to homeschool I can soak up more of those very special little moments of life.  I want to hold fast to what is eternally important in this life, ignoring what the world is asking of me yet not being ignorant to it.  I don't know if we'll homeschool forever - I don't even know how to menu plan for a whole seven days, let alone tell you if we'll be homeschooling next year or the year after.  But for us, for right now, making the most of the days, enjoying our littles while they are little, that is the driving force behind our decision.

I think there are many other wonderful reason to choose homeschooling but that's not what this is all about.  This is all about a woman with an addiction, a few choices and intentional eternal living.

Oh I sure hope this true story finds a happy ending...or's a happy beginning..?

The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases;
    His mercies never come to an end;
 they are new every morning;
    great is Your faithfulness.
“The Lord is my portion,” says my soul,
    “therefore I will hope in Him.”
Lamentations 3:22-24

*A number of these photos were taken for the photo challenge that I wasn't able to actually accomplish - and some...well they were taken just because I love these precious people so!* ;)



  1. Oh friend, I hear ya!!

    I can truly and honestly relate. Hence my down (in blogging) over the past couple of weeks. Besides the fact that I wasn't feeling well.

    It's challenging to think intentional and to force and forge through responsibilities - being a living examle...especially in front of my kids. How can I say one thing but do another? They on no/limited T.V. but they see me on my computer? Ahh...

    At this point Caleb will be attending first grade in Public School and Aubrey headed to a three day (AM only) Christian preschool... and just to keep up with that schedule a lone seems daunting. My spirit is restless. I pray if this isn't truly what God doesn't want for our family - than this year will be "a mess"...and somehow it will be really, really clear. It's just such a mixed conversation in our home right now..but a little too late to change this point. Maybe.

    I'll be praying for you.

    How else are you doing??

    1. I forgot to tell you how much I love, LOVE all of these photos... you're so amazing!

  2. Wonderful, honest post, Kaitlin. Isn't it amazing how God will do exactly what we need sometimes to get our attention and give us the answer we were looking for? Praying He will continue to give you this resolve to be intentional and diligent as you head into the school year with the girls! Enjoy!

  3. You will be amazing. God will be right there leading and guiding you. Rest in Him while you go about your busyness! Love you.

  4. This is a great reminder to me. I too am addicted to the internet and need to put more boundaries in place for myself, too!

    1. Thanks for commenting Julie! :D Oh do! Do put some boundaries in place! I never really realized the impact my addiction had in so many areas and ways of my life! It's crazy...and sad! :( Praying He guides you as you establish some intentional living in your life! You can do it sister! ;) :D


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