Sep 9, 2014

Hey, Momma, it's okay. You're doing fine!

To all the momma's out there, young, old, seasoned or new. 
Momma's of one, two or twenty two.  A letter to each and everyone of you! ♥

Dear Momma,

It's okay, you know!  You're doing fine! didn't brush your kids' hair last night...this morning or for the whole's okay.  You got them dressed from the clothes in the dryer, yes they were clean, a tad wrinkled but your Littles are dressed - it's a good day!  You served them breakfast...cereal...where the colours are almost neon but you know they love it! They love how the milk is the colour of mud at the end but tastes like a candy store exploded in their bowl.

It's okay, you love them! You're doing fine!

Hey, Momma, it's's okay that your child has the best designer stroller, top of the line educational toys and post consumer recycled made sip cups, plates and bibs even!  You have their clothes cleaned, folded and the hangers labelled, it's a good day!  You serve your Little one fresh, close to home grown, food and they gobble up the organic pork sausages asking for a second helping of real maple syrup, which you politely decline.

It's okay, you love them! You're doing fine!

Well Momma, your Littles...they aren't so little now, are they?  Grown, married, some in school, some moved miles away.  Their clothes are no longer your no longer fight with them to put things away, you take a moment to tidy your now easy to clean laundry room, it looks...orderly, it's a good day!  You make your oatmeal, and while enjoying it, hot, you check your emails to hear the latest news of these grown up people and the new ones coming.  You sigh, in the quiet house, and take up your knitting needles.

It's okay, you love them! You're doing fine!

You see Mommas, all you mommas, it's how you love that counts.  How you love your Littles, how you love this role called motherhood, how you live it, that's all that matters! Whether you birthed your babes, or you opened your heart to house another's Little for a time or for forever - you are Momma!

This is a crazy role - motherhood!  It's no nine to five job, there is nothing else like it!  You never clock out, ever!  It changes day by day, moment by moment...and just when you think you've got it all packaged up and changes again!  You can't count on much, but you can count on those changes! 

And you can count on Him!  Our Almighty Father....the one who gave you the gift of being Momma!  He knew, when He chose you, that this little one needed what you offered....and you needed them!  And though, I'm sure, there are days where you think He must have been crazy to entrust you with the growth and nurturing of this wee one - He did, and you can rest in that!

Will you mess up Momma?  Oh yes! Yes, yes, yes!!  But and I say it again, just love them!  Love them how you know to!  Don't love them how the Momma at the play group does.  Don't love them how your sister does.  Don't love them like your husband does.  Don't even love them the way Grammy used to...even if she was the sweetest lady to ever live - love them the way you do!

Love them by teaching them about History, or Math, or Music!  Love them by building the biggest play structure you could imagine!  Love them by making homemade play-doh and then leaving them to play with it while you enjoy a, hot!, cup of coffee! Love them while you let them watch their favourite movie...for the third time in a row! Love them while you listen to their stories, as silly and non-sensical as they may be - soaking up every word!  Love them while you take a bath and let Daddy mind them!   Love them as you hang up their fifteenth piece of art work, that day!  Love them when they are sick and you wait on them hand and foot!  Love them when you buy all the licensed products because you can get enough of seeing their eyes light up when they see, "so and so!" Love them by colouring quietly.  Love them by making supper!  Love them by letting them 'get away with it' just once more! Love them....however you love them...but love them!

It doesn't....and it won't, look how it looks for anyone else!  God has given us many people in our lives to both inspire and learn from but He gave you, Momma, your little people and He knew what He was doing when He did it!  He knows that you are just the one to teach, guide and nurture this child of His.  He knows all the mistakes you will make but He knows how you do try! 

He also knows all the lessons these little people will teach you, Momma!  Oh the lessons!  Lessons in patience, empathy, in seeing the world anew again, patience, learning when to hold ones tongue, to play, to laugh, patience, to be silly, to take the seriousness of the fact that Teddy is hurt!, to imagine, to sing and dance, and of course, patience!

And all He wants from you, Momma, is to love these little people and honour Him while you do it!  To cast aside what the world, your culture, your well meaning 'friend', tells you - and love on these people! Love them in the way He leads you and they way you know how. 

So no matter if you are a baby wearing, a bottle feeder, a pay for chores, a let them take the family car, a cry-it-out, a homeschooling, a strict curfew, a movie marathoner, a nothing by take-out, a stay at home, a scheduling, a cartwheeling, a me-time finagling, a clothes shopping, a sport supporting, a van toting, Momma - you are, Momma!

And hey, Momma, it's okay.  You're doing fine!


  1. <3 wonderful <3 Anita J

  2. Loved this - made me tear up! Karen D

  3. Aww. Nice piece. True too. Love you.

  4. fine enough!! It's what I do!! Thanks for the encouragement as some days I know my fine could be finer!! :)

    love to you and each one...


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