Nov 5, 2014

The Truth Behind Homemaker Design

Ahhh, the truth eh?? You see, I decided to write this post (which I will turn into a page, here after, that you will be able to access at the top of my blog, anytime) in response to some comments I had been hearing from a few people who read my blog.  These comments were well meaning and honest but they got me thinking....

What were the comments that caused my brain to have such strain?  Well they went something along the lines of, "I love your pictures! It's beautiful there!" "You and Dave are so romantic!"  "You are so happy!" "You're such an amazing mom!"  and others along those lines.

And well...this old brain got to thunking along and I realized that maybe, from the outside, I didn't best represent the truth...or the whole truth here on Homemaker Design.

The thing is, when I started blogging, it was just an experiment of sorts.  I had never been one to write much, was always told I wasn't very good!  I never kept a diary or journal, at least not very faithfully.  So when I started to blog, I figured it would be a phase and be over before I knew it.  But something happened - apparently I like to blog and really do enjoy writing!  So I have kept up on this old gal here and continued to record life with my family, thoughts on faith and many a varying rambles!

So, often when I'm putting things down, it's because it's stuff I want to remember.  I have a poor memory and it has been great keeping this blog and recording things so that I can look back and go, "Oh yeah! I remember that!!"  But honestly, I often forget that others read this!!  I know I have a few "loyal" readers, they often leave the only comments...that's how I know they are there!  But over all I write so that I can record and remember.

But after those various comments about how things looked on the outside, I got to thinking - maybe it's time I give you a glimpse at the truth, real, raw and honest!  As, when I blog, I'm trying to keep a record of our life - just like in photos - it's not often you take pictures of the bad or hard times; I don't often record those times either....for various reasons. 

Mostly I record the good or the light versions of our struggles because I don't think it wise to dwell on the bad.  I try to find God in every situation and praise Him in all areas!  But I see now that I may not be being real enough and I figure it's either time to anti up - or quite this whole thing all together! 

So here, in The Truth Behind Homemaker Design, I am recording the nity-grity of our life.  This should help to nock my life off of any pedestal it may appear to be on, it should help you see the real people that we are and you can always refer back to here when you have (crazy!) notions that we have it all together!!

So enjoy, don't judge, but realize that blogs are just glimpses into peoples lives - the controlled, polished glimpses that don't always paint the whole picture!!

The Truth Behind Homemaker Design:

  • We do NOT have it all together!

  • I am a normal mom - I have great amazing...moments with my kids and I have terrible moments too!
  • I yell!  Too often!
  • My kids are super sweet and I think them amazing, but they have tantrums, throw fits, fight (often lately!), lie and all the other 'bad' things that any kid can do!
  • I have mommy guilt - but show me a mom who doesn't...seriously!
  • I have said things to them that I regret...most I have apologized for...some I have not...

  • My husband and I are romantics, to a fault!!
  • My husband and I also argue and yes even fight - to the point of yelling and bad words being said!
  • Dave and I love each, more then words can say, but we don't always agree and that's life!
  • We have been married over a decade and yes, we still have that same know the one, we all have one, the one fight that never seems to get resolved....why is that???
  • No, he has never slept in the "dog house" but I have threatened to sleep on the couch a few times! ;)

House and Home
  • Yes, it is gorgeous out here!
  • But gorgeous doesn't heat the house, and our house is old and cold!  It can be cozy and the smell of the wood smoke is charming...but when the wood is wet and the temperature drops and you get up in the morning and can see your breath....the gorgeous loses some of it's charm.
  • We get cluster flies.  They are annoying...and gross.
  • It takes two hours to mow our lawn! Though I do love to do it...that's not always how I want to spend two hours on a sunny day.
  • We renovated, top to bottom, our first two houses, that was how we got the down payment for our current home.  We enjoy renovating...mostly - and my hubby only works 36 hours a week - so we have the time!  We don't do it all - we just chose to renovate instead of cable T.V., vacations, gym memberships, etc..  This is what we do and it works for us!

  • I struggle with issues of idolatry/gluttony - obviously pertaining mostly to food and I am working with God on changing that...but I need prayer!
  • I get addicted to computer games...well I get addicted to lots of things...but the internet and the computer are key in time stealing for me!
  • If given the choice for how to spend my time...I will often...if not selfish.
  • I...dislike going to church....not so much once I'm there - I love the people...but getting up and ready and out the door on a Sunday...well, it's a challenge to me.  I love Sundays at home! It's bad...I know....

  • We are terrible with money! And at any given moment are probably in debt to some degree! 
  • We are trying to change our money habits - and God has been good and gracious with us in this!  It's a slow process...!
  • I'm stubborn! So is hubby!
  • My husband struggles with leading - he's a good, kind, generous man but he is not good at leading, in any form....and I too naturally jump in where he doesn't!
  • Yes, I Photoshop my photos.

I believe in being real and this, dear friends, is why I have created this list!  I never intended to make anyone think we did have it all together and so I am taking down the façade that we are 'perfect' and let you in on the real us!  I'll add to this list as it comes to mind or if you have anything you really want to know - I'll honestly tell you, just ask!

Dave and I believe in trying to be real, it's not always easy, that's for sure but we are trying!  God is most glorified in our guess we are one God glorifying household!




  1. Great list. Can I bust your bubble. I knew all this about you - anyway. But, I still love you!!

    The truth is. My name could almost be signed here - underneath yours. I too struggle with the "do I share too much of the nicety"...instead of all the real and the raw. But, I agree... why focus on all the bad? We should remember the good and dwell on the lovely. Philippians 4:8 amen?

    I'm glad you and I have taken it to another level and talked through some of this very stuff over the phone... even when I am not a phone person.

    You're a great friend to keeping it real with.

    Any updates on the homestead? and fix you're spelling in the post title. **wink**

    1. Haha! Thanks for the spelling heads up! ;) All fixed!

      Yes, nothing was meant to be 'surprising' if you knew me fairly well - and I know you relate in many ways!! :)

  2. I could have written this post. So much of it (except we don't have kids) is just like our house. I guess this just proves we aren't perfect, only God is. That's not a bad thing to realize. We are all just sinners saved by grace.

    1. So true Kathy - nothing is perfect except God! Never a bad thing to remind ourselves of! His grace - wow, isn't that an amazing and awe-inspiring thing!?!

  3. Well I think those positive comments you received are all true but of course not the whole picture like you shared! I've thought a lot about blogging and being real...even written a few posts about it! It's definitely a tough balance, especially depending on what the purpose of your blog is - if it's to record good memories and be creative and share what you love then it makes sense that it's going to be very positive and lovely! But definitely if we're sharing on a deeper level it's good to aim for authenticity and share the "messy and real" at times as well...all the while respecting privacy and not feeling the need to over-share...I think sometimes that "being real" is such a buzz-phrase right now that we sometimes feel pressure to share what doesn't need to be publicly shared! Does that make sense??

    Anyway, I did enjoy this post even though I didn't learn any juicy secrets as I was hoping.....;) Thank you for your honesty and desire to encourage others!

    1. Hahahah! No, no 'juicy' secrets - but that wasn't exactly the you know me in yeah, you'd know all of this I'm sure! This was just a humble reminder that things are not as they may appear on the outside. I know that I don't portray a perfect life (HA! that'd be a joke!) but just seemed that I had a number of comments that I felt warranted a post of this nature.... I know that I have read blogs that made me feel like they had it all together and I was a failure in some ways, so when I heard those comments, I thought I didn't want to do that to anyone (not that I ACTUALLY believe anyone would think that of me! it all together! HAHAHA!)

      I don't know about "being real" being a buzz-phrase, I just know it's a conviction for me and my life right now. BUT I do not, and I repeat, do NOT want my 'being real' to be a glorification of my errors or sins!!! More to align with the passage in James (5:16). I used to feel that I needed to hide things, or come across in a certain way but I realized that is not helpful to my spiritual growth and it may possibly be a stumbling block to others. In confessing my sins, being open and honest, I find that I am learning more about who I am in God and who He has created me to be. (the good and the bad bits!) That's just where I am, and where we are, right now. So I don't know if I completely understand when you say that there are some things that don't need to be shared publicly...but I do understand having respect - especially if I was to share about others...yes, that might be wrong. But this is just me - I'm coming to a place where I feel that I shouldn't hide anything - not that I need to blab it all to everyone all the time - does that makes sense with what you were meaning?? If I've missed the mark, let me know!! I appreciate the feed back!! :)


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